He was never violent. Just cruel with his words. He would be himself for small moments and then this stranger would appera and nothing I do or did would be good enough. Kids are too loud, food taste strange, house is too disorganised... I work all day and then pick up the kids and feed them, clean them, homework, bedtime... But I don't give him the attention he needs. He says that if we were closer and communicated more maybe it would help.