KuanYin - He's been in jail/prison before and I fell for the whole 'commissary, starving, don't have toothpaste, etc.' - also used for prison tattoos and who knows what else! If he begins pestering with phone calls, I'll just stop answering them.
lesliej - Ah, the perfection! I think we also are predisposed to be caretakers and fixers.
So thankful I found this site and all of you - makes a world of difference to have people that understand how I feel about my son and his addiction.