A "p*ssing match" is a curious way to describe any sort of interaction. Matter of perception I suppose, I just don't see things that way. The original OP was a compare/contrast scenario of AA and RR/AVRT and I think the responses have highlighted that. If I find the religious undertones of AA to be problematic, that does not mean I think they should be problematic for all, by any means. But I do find them problematic and patronizing, so I am rigorously honest about that.