I heard an Alanon speaker today at a workshop. She said she had regrets but didn't ever say she was sorry. If I ever do an 8th step and contact my XAH I will mention regrets- I won't say I am sorry. This disease makes one crazy. It is insane. Eight years of Alanon and I am still a baby. I am not perfect. I will never be perfect. I had some of my character defects way before I married my X. The 1st step is the problem. I have 11 more steps for the solution. It is exciting to find I am not alone in it. Thanks for being here for me.