Gracie, I hear you on that. When he was drinking a lot his snoring was awful and I wanted him out but now it's much better.
As an update: we had a long talk last night. He wants his family back. He is committing to change despite not having a recovery program. I told him that actions speak louder than words so it's going to take time for me to trust him again. He knows his lies, manipulations, and alcoholic behaviors were crazy making. I still have my wall up and I'm still confronting my anger issues but t least he's not blaming me and is accepting responsibility for his actions. For now, I am keeping the peace, working my own recovery program, and trying my best to live one day at a time.