I have been in a much similar situation, still am really. My AH is in rehab right now and sends the most beautiful, poetic letters you have ever seen. 8 years of marriage and i have NEVER seen or heard him open up like this before! Everything in me wants to believe this is the new, sober, changed man......but my brain wants to protect ME and consider the possibility that he is afraid of losing me and "pulling out all the stops" to keep me hanging on. Only time will tell, but I think we both just need to let them go for a while (no contact is a God send) and focus on our own healing and our own recovery plan. As we do this, hopefully, the right choice will be very clear to both of us. Make sense? :ghug3: You are definitely NOT alone!!