Well, his idea of mending fences is putting 100% into his job, saying I'm sorry for the DUI and the crap he put us through, and then just quitting drinking without a program or any support whatsoever. To me, it doesn't seem like much but I think that's all he's capable of right now. I guess I'm just trying to push the envelope towards common ground and healing for both of us. I'm just sooooooo not used to taking care of myself and NOT being there for him. That includes 'in the bedroom' too. I used to give him bedroom time on days when he'd been horrid to me thinking that it would relax him and make him feel wanted and appreciated. Wow, I really do have a long way to go!