"I'm just frustrated with him right now. He seems to like to tell me how he doesn't think I'll ever be capable of trusting him ever again and how he would understand if I left him(victim mode here) and then the next minute he's telling me that he drank and hid it because I was so judgmental and that he had no choice. UGH, someone please tell me that I'm not the crazy one here!"
I have heard the same identical Line from my ExAB maaaaany times with tears.
waaaaaaahhhhh I'm a helpless crying duck QUACKING in disguise.
I bought into this mumbo jumbo many times and thought I was crazy for almost a year. You are not crazy, just a Codie who is moving through recovery which makes you a strong awesome Codie.