I joined finally after reading this for 2 years. I wanted to say that NY is one of the best states to be an addict in. I live in NY. How old is your son? I wanted to pm you with good rehabs and how to get in, but I see I must post 5 times before I can.
Look into St. Christopher's in Garrison, NY. Wonderful program. You live there but it is charged as an outpatient. 90 day program then on to its sober living, etc. Also, you need to call Addiciotn Crisis centers and in our area you go in and start the etox process there, no one is turned away. If you need to be you will be transported to the hospital. There are many good programs. If you live downstate you may have to drive upstate. Also, Conifer Park in Albany detox and rehab. There are more out there. Don't give up,it is something they can't always do on there own.