I have met with a divorce attorney and what I was told seems like it would be common sense no matter what state you are in....
Open a bank account in your name only and start putting your
earnings in that account.
Look at every account associated in any way with you.......electric/gas/water/mortgage/cable/netflix/internet etc. etc. etc.
and, depending on what you are going to do.....
Is your car in your name only? Does he have a car? And is YOUR name on the title of his car?
If you are walking away....make sure you get YOUR name off of any of those accounts. Or get HIS name off of any of yours.
The more advance work that you do....the more the two of you can agree on up front.....the cheaper and faster it is.
In our State.....you don't even have to have an attorney if you have a settlement, or if you are just simply walking away and there is nothing to settle.
Unfortunately...I can't just walk, so I was advised to start taking my personal belongings OUT of the house and put in a safe place. So I rented a storage unit.
In my State you can file for divorce and submit a settlement signed and notarized by both parties.
You might want to check into that possibility.
Addiction is Progressive.
This isn't going to get better until they embrace sobriety and recovery.