I feel for you. My husband and I found a rehab for our son and we shelled out the money last June. It was cheaper compared to some places--but none are cheap. Should our son wind up needing rehab in the future, I know we must let him figure it out (easier said than done). I've heard there are free rehabs. It's so hard to let our children figure out their own lives without our trying to figure it out for them. I've gained some fortitude from coming here on this forum. I spoke to my son today (he moved in with his girlfriend). I took the car he had been using away from him and today he was discussing his getting a bus pass. They can manage just fine without us--if we let them.