Hi Kim,
Sweetheart, I am so sorry you are going thru this. But I say this as gently as I can....
you are very sick with all of this right now. Enabling and Codependency will suck the life out of you. And I say this from my own experience.
I hope and pray that you really listen to what others are offering here.
I say this as the mother of a 32 year old daughter who is so deep in meth addiction and has been in some sort of active addiction since age 14.
Believe me when I say......if there was ANY POSSIBLE WAY.....I would have done it.
You have to take Love out of the equation as far as the way most of us think Love is.
I hope you stay here...read...listen...post....learn....grow.
And please research intervention....research research research. Interventions should NEVER EVER be attempted without the guidance of an expert Intervention team. They can go horribly wrong very quickly, and very easily.