Blah blah blah is all I am hearing from her.
She doesn't intend to go at all. And that is a shame considering that her daughter is going to be in foster care until she goes.
This really has nothing to do with you and your husband. It's between her and the state. And she is so far gone that she really thinks she can stay out of a facility.
It's not going to last that long. Social services doesn't play with kids. If she EVER wants to see her daughter again, she is going to have to go.
So don't give up yet. Hopefully she will see this is the only chance she has to be the mother she was meant to be.