As nice as it would be for parents to always be on the same page about everything, remember that you are two separate people who are each trying to deal with a difficult situation in the best way that you each know how. My AD forced me and my H to see that we had different boundaries and coping mechanisms. Ulitmately, AD crossed all of our combined boundaries before we could agree that she had to go. It wasn't ideal but we learned that fighting between ourselves only made things worse.