Originally Posted by
inpieces314 
It is very easy to stop drinking, you just put the bottle down. The problem is learning how to not pick it back up again. That is what the programs are for, and if he doesn't work a program, he is guaranteed to drink again. The statistics prove it.
And if he is one of the very few who becomes a dry drunk, it is still because he hasn't done any meetings. Alcoholics balk at the idea of AA meetings, but it's not just to stop drinking, there is more involved, and THAT is what they are really scared of.
He was a dry drunk for the first 15 years of our marriage, he started drinking about 18 months ago and it really escalated with the binges in the past 6 months. I told him I wouldn't marry him if he kept drinking so he quit. Way back then, in my early 20s, I didn't realize that he needed more than to just put down the booze. I know better now and I am disappointed that he doesn't want to find a recovery program.