Divided Again
Our 19yr old daughter is the one thing that comes between my husband and I. Honestly, until recently I dont' think either of us truly realized that she is a full blown heavy drug addict that is into some really bad stuff with some really bad people.
Our current situation is this:
Social Services has our grandchild and they are going to give the baby to us but they want her in treatment first to alleviate any concerns about her coming to our home and trying to take off with the baby. There is no possible way they will give her the baby back unless she is in a long term treatment facility.
My husband and I had decided together last week that the only involvement we would have with her is to drive her to a treatment facility or hospital.
Our daughter has had several opportunities of places that she could go to RIGHT NOW TODAY. However, she keeps making excuses that she has this to do or that to do and she is continuing to run around with the same people and seeking out the same things.
My husband says he's going to give her until next week and that he will continue to talk to her or assist her in accomplishing tasks (faxing applications, getting health exam) to get her into a place.
I feel angry because I think she is manipulating him and it feels like we are in constant emotional upheaval with him still communicating with her. And I feel angry because she loves it when she can get him to talk to her when she knows that I won't.
My husband feels like he is being reasonable and giving her a reasonable amount of time to complete things and to assist her in doing so.
I feel like this is more of her games that he is allowing her to play and I feel like she might have more motivation if she was truly cut off from all of us.
Please opine.
I'm trying to settle my nerves and my anger!