Originally Posted by
lizatola 
He got his DUI 10 days ago
all his other emotional garbage he's throwing at me(telling me that I'm not capable of trusting him ever again, saying that he'll have to answer to me as his judge from now on, etc),
I'm curious,
Has he been saying these things in the last 10 days?
If so, I believe his is already drinking or has plans to drink and fears you finding out. He is not afraid of alcohol and it's consequences - he is afraid of your reaction.
It sounds like an alcoholic that wants to go back to the only comforter who truly understands him and accepts him just as he is: the bottle.
Is there anything you can do to change this? No. But you already knew that and stated that in your post. Good on you!
Sending you encouragement and support as you continue to work on your recovery during this time.