I used to think that way about my dad, if he loved me, he would stop drinking and doing drugs, but he never did until it killed him when I was 21. I came to understand that it wasn’t that he didn’t love me, his addiction was strong and the most important thing in his life. I think you can probably understand this coming from a family of addicts. BE VERY CAREFUL, you are primed to be a codependent because of your past. You are probably a caring, tolerant and understanding person- many children of addicts are! Please do not re-live your childhood by being around an addict.
38 months is not a long time. I question whether this is really your “soul mate?” I am not trying to be harsh, but I hate to see someone in your situation set themselves up for a future full of trauma. Plus, if he has been using for a couple years, do you really know the real person? Remember also, that drugs addicts lie, and he may have been doing more drugs and for a longer time then he admits.
Think about the future and the chance of relapse as well.
Hugs girl, and take care of yourself first and foremost