KaunYin, Your post could have been written about my son and my day to day with him. I wish I could have read this one,two, five years ago. Been given the opportunity to educated myself as the original poster has chosen to do by coming here. I do not know however how much one can absorb when the event is just beginning. It is all black and white now, but back then I was so in denial and the kept the money flowing for all the excuses you mentioned.