Parents needing advice
Hello,
We are currently starting on the road of detachment with our 18 year old AS, who just moved out of the house last week after refusing our living terms and our offer of helping him get further treatment toward recovery. After some heated discussion, we had a friendly goodbye at the end, so our relationship with him isn't totally fractured, but we are clearly disappointed at his decision and it's impact on his future (he moved in with a drug user friend of his that we did not approve of).
We have already decided not to give him money and not allow him into our house without us present.
We are trying to figure out how to deal with him in other ways. How often should we contact him? Should we just avoid the subject of his drug abuse to avoid any arguments? Should we give him advice and guidance on living on his own? Or should we just completely let go and not have contact with him?
We would appreciate any advice or shared experiences.
Thank you...