Praising Sober people
Why is it that I find it so hard to praise addicts or alcoholics? or even have compassion in some cases?
I am happy that people recover and stop using, but thats where it stops for me. I go to meetings and people will call people heros and use words like "amazing". I find people who have done great thing with their lives amazing. I find people who have gone above and beyond for humanity..Heros. Children who survive cancer.
But an ex addict or alcoholic?
Many who have done so much damage to thier families and have raised children in fear and hate. I knew of a man who shared in a room that he used to rape all his sisters when he would be drunk. I am happy that he is now sober, i truly am. But I always thought about his sisters. No letter, no amends can clear something like that. If you are the victim, sure you can let go let god, but you cant undo.
Whitney Houston was in so much pain as an addict, I get it...but I also know poeple who worked with her who said she was a nasty mean bitch...
Help me understand this people?