Some people may recover from codependency without going to alanon and some may recover just by going to alanon. For me, I need alanon and tons of other activities like reading, meditating, counseling.
In reading this thread it is striking how our own personal experiences sometimes prevent us from objectively processing someone's post and responding without rancor.
I appreciate all the different viewpoints, some I relate to, some I don't but still appreciate hearing from everyone.