Originally Posted by sober4metoday

I am newly sober. I have never been in a 12 step program and I have no one in my circle (what am I saying....of course no one in my circle! lol) that has ever been involved in one. But, apparently I had a sub-contractor that worked on my house that was in one. One day I get this letter in the mail. He was "making amends". All I can tell you is that I felt horrible, violated, dirty, stupid for all the things he admitted to doing while employed in my home. I was so pissed off that he took that guilt off his shoulders in the name of "making amends" and put it on mine. I was sick over it.

I have a tough time with that step because of this. To relieve yourself of guilt by burdening others with the truth is something I'm not sure I can understand (at least at this point).

Can someone help me understand how this works? Because honestly...I wish I never knew what this guy was up to.