They really don't see it. It's like a veil over their eyes to all their bad behavior.
My RAH has 18 mos working AA....I'm still waiting for an apology. But I'm not going to get it ...very simply because...
he says
"It's a DISEASE!!!! I couldn't help what I was doing. I didnt even realize it was wrong. I shouldn't have to apologize. I wouldn't have to if I had cancer!"
uh yeah.... I guess I should amend my post to add... he SAYS he's working his steps/program but last time I checked ALL grown ups need to be accountable for their actions...past and present...disease or not.