Well, we had our meeting with the lawyers and his lawyer didn't know there was a 14 year old friend in the car when AH got picked up for DUI among other things he was an idiot. Anyways his lawyer said to me " AH will be sure he does not use before he is with 14 year old son for visitation and during." At the end of the meeting I said " I do not trust that he will just not use before and during, I want my son with me during the schoolweek and then his father can see him on the weekends, but not to stay overnight". At that his lawyer and AH wanted to talk privately then said the meeting was over. Ah is going along with this plan right now. He has been out of town working for the past 6 months, coming home for his court dates and holidays, but I have been mom full time. I told AH I had to work the weekends in February at my second job at a local theater and could our son stay with him from 12-9 on Sat. and Sun. I have to drive him there and pick him up as AH's license is taken away for 6 months, he can only drive to work, however he has been seen at local in and out mart, grocery and has dropped off stuff to my house. AH replied that he had plans to go out of town that first weekend in Feb. just one week after he came home from out of town job. I went off on him in an email about how I have been the parent for 6 months and if he really wants to see his son so much, why is he going out of town? He replied he decided to stay home even though he has made the plans a long time ago, (like that makes a difference). Then on the Sat. I took son to Dad's at noon and at 4pm my son texts me that he is going to a friend's house and would I pick them up at his friend's and bring them back to my house for the evening (I work 12-4 and 6-10 at the theater). So AH didn't even make his son stay with him to spend time with him! And obviously son didn't want to. So sad.....
Then I was filling out paperwork for scholarships for high school next year and emailed AH to send me his W-2 from 2011 to send to them and fill in the information they need and he made 12000 dollars more than the previous year! He never wanted to give me a copy of his paystub when we first started the divorce process and the lawyer asked me to get a copy of it, and AH told me in an email that he didn't have a copy of his paystub because he has it electronically deposited.....right, I said, when we were together it was deposited electronically and we got a paper copy, does he think I am stupid!
I was so livid, I called him and he didn't answer and I went off about how I am working a second job to pay for our son's 10,500 dollar tuition next year, worried sick he won't be able to go and he has 12000 dollars more he made this past year (he has been out of the house since Nov. 2010) and we agreed then he would get 12000 for his monthly expenses and I would get the rest for all of our bills, with little extra for fun! I am soooooo livid. He has not responded to me, of course...... ughhhhhhhhh
