Old 02-16-2012, 08:26 PM
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naive
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justrae-

similar happened to me. it hurts horribly. we can all say to you that this is for the best, but right now, that doesn't take the pain away.

keep reaching out for support. consider individual therapy to help you heal. try journaling your feelings.

i want to add that many of our addicts do the same...when we step back from enabling their addiction, they go and get someone new who will. it is not personal. this is not about you as a person. this is about the addiction needing to be fed. addiction also likes to remain in the dark. you called it out into the light.

your XABF is an addict. he is abusing alcohol and pills. it is the road that only leads to tears. shed yours now and thank god that you didn't marry him and have children with him.

i found it very useful to read the stories here when i felt at my lowest, because it reminded me of the reason why we couldn't be together. love is not enough to fix an addict. it took me a long time to accept that but i know it now.

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