(((Jessie))) - things like this DO put things into perspective.
When I was with XABF#1 (the one I was with for 20+ years) he missed my mom's funeral because "he adored her, got drunk because he was hurting and was too hungover". Dad met my step-mom-to-be, my baby stepsister died in a car wreck at 18 and he wasn't there for me then, either. He "adored" her, too. It wasn't until HIS dad died that he said "OMG, I am so sorry I wasn't there for you..nowI understand". He still didn't change.
Your mom and dad are priorities IMO. Take care of you and do what you need, and can, for them.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy