Originally Posted by
jessiec 
I do love him (the sober version). He can be the most wonderful, sweet, funny, loving, generous, good, family-oriented, God-loving man who treats me like a queen.
And then he can be a real drunk jackhole.
You cannot dissociate the sober man from the "drunk jackhole"; they are one and the same. Are you willing to accept him as he is today? That is the only person he is willing to be at the moment.