There are laws on the books to protect victims of domestic violence, some of which revolve around 'bending the rules' for apartment applications, divulging private information, utility connections, etc. Aside from consulting your attorney, you can get a lot of useful info from your local DV counseling center. They are there to help you thru situations
just like this.
This is also an excellent resource for online information:
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