Bill- I already talked to my mortgage co... There's no way to get a co-signer off unless it's refinanced... But good idea... I guess I could call other banks and see about changing my lender somehow and see if it's maybe just my bank...
TJP- This all happened on our 3 season porch. Even when he turned back and slapped me-- really hit but since it wasn't a closed fist I guess I can't say hit... I was in the threshold of the doorway and not fully in the house so the girls certainly were aware of what happened (my face was glaringly red and I was crying so I had to address it with the girls a bit) but they weren't standing right there watching it and it certainly could've been worse. I hate that they were impacted by it at all and had to know or hear or see anything... I tried to get him to leave asap and peacefully and it seems that anything short of letting him stay and be drunk and beligerant was going to end badly.