during a time when xABF and i were split up, he took a lover for a few months. she was a heavy drinker and they were drunk their entire relationship. i have never met her nor spoken one word to her.
stupidly, i took him back. months later, it is reported to us that she rarely leaves the house anymore, she just sits in it, drinking all the time.
he turns to me and says "now, look what you've done to her!"