Originally Posted by
Loneywife 
How can I deal with the anger towards my husband and in laws?
By accepting that you are powerless over them. By accepting that I was powerless over my daughter's addiction, I eventually regained my personal power
You've made a good decision to attend your first meeting; you'll find others who also struggle with letting go and some who have found their way. If for whatever reason your first meeting doesn't feel like a good fit for you, please check around for other meetings including Alanon.