I am having an incredibly hard time right now realizing (as I have realized for some time now) just how much I recreated my childhood for my kids. I was that inconsistent, sometimes on edge, sometimes distracted, sometimes unreasonably angry parent.
I can't blame AH for that and I despise myself for not having kicked AH out sooner.
Hindsight of course is 20:20. I was told I was doing them harm and I did not see it- or didn't want to. I believed that they were immune to it. I believed that they were protected from most of it.
I am grateful for this thread bc it reminds me (particularly during this week with my girls behavior has been very very trying) that I have no right to be frustrated or impatient with their issues bc I am the one responsible for them having the issues they do.