Scrambled,
First, thank you for the compliment.
My thanks button doesn't seem to work on my Windows7 computer.
I agree that there is no one solution that fits all situations. But, I do have to mention that I spent years minimizing the problem. "It's not THAT bad." "It could be worse." "Everyone has flaws." "Nobody's perfect." I also used "nicer" words and euphemisms rather that speaking the stark, ugly truth. The rationalization and justification game I played in my mind allowed me to stay in a bad situation much longer than I probably should have. The thought process I was using at the time was not rational because of the conditioning I received as a child. Part of that conditioning included divorce=failure, so I had to find a way to avoid failure. Fear was in control, not my higher self. Just my perspective, looking back in hindsight.
L