Thanks for posting this Bill. I feel the same way. I was raised in a alcoholic home and I'm still dealing with the fallout at the ripe old age of 49+! My father (the alcoholic) was not abusive and I rarely saw him drunk. My mother, on the other hand, was an angry codependent obsessed with my father and his drinking/whereabouts. I suffered way more at the hands of an absent/obsessed/frustrated/angry mom than I ever did at the hands of an alcoholic father.
I just shake my head when someone posts how they "protect' their kids from the truth. Or how he never drinks around them, or they never see him drunk. It affects them, whether you admit it or not.
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