ABrother won't communicate, but there's legalities at play...
Okay, how to bring you up to speed without being too wordy...
My mom died 20 months ago.
My AB went off the deep end emotionally and alcoholically, but mom left all three surviving children as co-executors. Legally, we all must agree on stuff, but AB has made death threats and not lived up to his part of the needed actions to settle the estate.
Normally, I would write off the threats except that he really has gone off the deep end and also has a super-enabler that has already beat up the brother's ex-girlfriend enough to put her through at least four surgeries. He came at me a few weeks ago (totally at random, I was leaving a big box store and saw my brother walking in, once his personal pit bull realized who I was, he came after me in the parking lot) and I managed to walk away unscathed, but this guy is scary.
I don't even know what to ask about what I need to know. My other brother has been the main executor because I suck at management and am the baby, etc. My AB and I were exceedingly close until all this went down. Now I'm somehow the super-enemy in his mind. In my mind, he's overly paranoid, drinking himself to death and has admitted to having hallucinations. All my news of him, aside from our brush in the parking lot, is second, third or fourth hand. Detaching has been a bitch for me but I'm managing it best I can.
So, I don't know, what do you do when there's all this legal stuff at bay? I would love to see him in jail, if only because it would force him to at least sober up for a day and maybe I could get him into rehab, to at least see him without fearing for my own security. He won't communicate with the other brother either.
Whatever. Any advice is helpful.