MyBetterWorld, It is so very good to see how far you have come. I have been following your story, from the back row. (As I have been warned not to be so outspoken, regarding certain issues).
If memory serves me correctly, and please forgive, if I have you confused with another, this XA was charged/accused of abuse of children? IMHO he lost all rights they day he laid his hands on a helpless child. Unacceptable and unforgivable acts do not ever warrant further consideration. I am sorry that your kids are fatherless at this time. But it sounds like they have a mom who is trying to do right by them, and for that I commend you and offer my continued support of you and your kids. May you stay strong and focused in your new journey.