I go to alanon regularly and have a sponser. He isn't drinking though. that's the big huge part....even though he wants to sometimes...he isn't doing it.
I do feel manipulated.
if he doesn't get his way...holy crap watch out... he is like an overgrown child at times and that is really hard to deal with.
He says he can't talk to be about issues because I react badly...
I think it's because I won't accept all the blame, won't let him manipulate the situation and I refuse to let him hurt my feelings. All things I did BEFORE i attended alanon.