Originally Posted by
tjp613 
Zoso -- You should know that "the rules" don't apply to those with BPD. They really don't have the capacity to feel much empathy while they are so worried about their own well-being and getting their bottomless pit of needs met. I don't mean to sound critical...this is the way they are and they can't help it, really. Compassion is the only way out of this emotional pain, my friend. Just be glad you are not HER. Her hell will continue for the rest of her days. Yours will be over soon enough. (((hugs)))
I know...intellectually, that is. I've got her number. There's no mystery anymore.
And you're not sounding critical. It is what it is: a severe case of BPD.
But while I know I'm going to get through this, the hurt is there. For every good few days I have, I have a day, like today, where the enormity of it all is overwhelming and painful.