Sunshine, strange that you should say that about the deleted texts. What's strange is that he did delete all the texts related to that poor 14-year-old. But he left the texts to another girl he is "courting," as well as a few texts that implicate him in seeing the kid cross the street--who is 18. The kid came over while i was letting him smoke a cig outside. I don't think it was for long, but I don't really know. I found this out this morning when i checked his texts.
It would seem he is testing me.
So this was my plan, after paying on it: No phone or electronics today when he comes home from school. I will have to discipline him for this infraction, however small it is.
I don't want to make a big deal out of it, but he broke the rules, and he lied.
It doesn't really matter what I do. If he uses, his probation officer will find out when he tests his urine.
About the "monkey in the zoo" thing--he has a whole HUGE room upstairs, where he can choose to read, write, do art, and do his homework. He doesn't have to be on display if he doesn't want to be.