Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
Hey...
I'm fairly new as well. And, unfortunately, I can empathize with your story, as my ex AGF just dumped me 3 weeks ago for another addict and admited to cheating on me with at least two men.
What's important now is being able to decouple his stuff from your stuff. He has to take ownership of his behavior, and based on my recent experiences, addicts have difficulty doing that. In other words, his behavior is a reflection of him and not you.
If you have not already done so, I would suggest finding your local Al Anon/Nar Anon meeting list and attend. You are not alone. Yes, the pain is awful and, at times, all encompassing. But you're going to be OK. Trust me on this. Be good to yourself, take care of yourself, and protect yourself.
Zoso