Things that are helping me focus on me and having the happy healthy joyous life I deserve:
Reading Codie books and engaged is this SR forum
Giving my self permission to rest and be kind to my self
Removing the terrible "shoulds" from my vocabulary
Spending time with animals
Eating healthy food I enjoy
Watching fun or interesting movies
Working out cause I want to not have to
Laughing at my self and life in a good way
Things that don't help me:
Fantisizing about the life that could have been with RExAB
Self pitty talk like "will I ever find a great healthy partner?"
Being mean to my self and beating my self up for living him and putting my self through all of that pain and nonsense
Punishing my self by making me work excessive hours, workout when I'm tired, do things that I really don't want to do and don't have to
Seeing or talking to my RexAB
Thinking that maybe he really dies mean it now...HA
Not keeping the focus on my self
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