Thanks, Leise!
He spent all day at school in the guidance office, catching up on his work. He went to a 5:30 NA meeting--again, a positive response. We let him go to a movie with his girlfriend, who waited for him to come back for a month (that's some loyal 14-year-old!). My husband went to pick him up at the movies. His weekend curfew is midnight--he can watch TV until then, if he brings firewood onto the porch, but no computer or XBox. They're both locked in the trunk. At midnight, we take his phone and it's lights out.
Tomorrow, he and my husband repair the hole in his wall that he made one night when his friends were over.
He is doing pretty well so far. He's tested, and I held my boundaries. But each day, I remind myself that I am powerless, and that whether to use is his choice to make, not mine.
How is your stepson doing?