How to live with a RAH...?
Great question.
But I think emotional immaturity is a hallmark symptom of a RA!!
Glad to know mine isn' the only one. I can live with that part of it...the actual manifestation of that immaturity (yes, family guy is his tv show of choice..EVERY night)...but what I can't deal with is the fact he is AWARE of it and uses that excuse that "AA says I stopped maturing at the age I started drinking"...for all his immature behavior.
Bigger issues than I thought perhaps?!
I don't have any easy answers but I like what LaTeeda said...
I understand it...
I don't think that the A should be allowed to just 'check out' while in recovery. Like someone else said...life still goes on. Bills still need to be paid..and responsibilities and commitments that need to be handled.
I'm tired of it.
My RAH has been in recovery for 18 months.
It is like dealing w/ another child in my house...
and he finds nothing wrong with his behavior at all.
It's frustrating. I love my RAH but I need, deserve and want more than what my RAH is able to give. I don't think he CAN be mature. I don't think he CAN be financially responsible and I certainly don't think he can parent our children in a positive and safe manner (sorry shooting bottle rockets at your 10 yr olds head is not safe..he says I don't know how to have fun...).
I'm ready to go.
I love him. But not enough to stay with him.
I'm figuring out how to get out the easiest, quickest and least drama way....
the minute everything is lined up we are GONE.
He can grow up on his own time...not mine.