Originally Posted by
zoso77 
easiest thing for me to do -- and the worst possible thing I could do -- is to focus on the lying and the manipulation and feeding my anger with that. Instead, I'm allowing myself the anger, but not feeding it.
What hurts, though, is I genuinely loved her and was in this for the long haul, and she was dismissive of those feelings. I know that callousness, that meanness, is symptomatic of BPD, but knowing what's going on doesn't make things easier for me to deal with.
here's hoping you can find some salve for the burn that you feel. Keep the focus on yourself i know that maybe sounds too easy but it does help and it is the best advise i ever received when in your situation. Oh and be gentle with yourself.