Originally Posted by
stella27 
I'm sorry. I have been mightily disappointed in some of my "closest" friends since the initial crisis with XH was over. Everybody rallied round for a while, but when the drama was over and I was rebuilding, my own growth and even vulnerability seemed to bring out something ugly and vicious in them.
It has been harder losing friends than it ever was losing XH.
OMG, this is it exactly! I am not a weak, needy, please rescue me type anymore and when I say I am vulnerable and feeling down, it's genuine and I am sharing how I feel- not looking to be a victim (another accusation from them).
It's almost as if now that I don't need their "expertise" (both women are or seemed to be further along in their own recoveries with the spouses- though both are still with their spouses) they need to cut me down to keep me in my place.
The whole thing is making me sick. Literally I feel like puking and am trying to keep from crying since I am at work.