WTBH, ((((HUGS))))
One thing I have found with my recovery is that friends and confidants that I had before I started recovery don't "fit" as well as they used to. My frame of reference has changed too much and we just do see things the same way any more. It doesn't mean we can't be friends but it does mean that I'm not going to ask them for advice on anything important again.
So, instead of blaming yourself for
How can I continue to be such a collosally bad judge of character?!
, instead look it as much progress you have made in your recovery.
Your friend,