What is the best way to explain a trigger to someone?
My husband is a highly organized neat-nick (he's a quality control manager...ugh). Like everyone else, I never clean crap unless I have to. But now that I have a family and a husband that's the way he is disagreements have come up over housework a couple of times.
I think have found a good place in the middle for us, but whenever I get too messy he flips and whenever he gets too neat (and does that busy person cleaning thing) that causes me to flip. He wasn't raised in this country and the things I consider neurotic he considers normal and "the way it is". I look at is he's still trying to prevent mom from yelling by keeping things neat and in order. But again, in his culture these sorts of things are normal.
What is the best way to explain it do you think?