Here is where I need help: how can I pinpoint where he's telling lies? And how do I let him drug test w/o him manipulating it?
I can't simply tell him to go away... if he takes me to court, I'm afraid of what might happen. I need to work with him on this, but i also cannot be manipulated into turning my child over to him when he's still using.
MammaMia,
If he is an active addict, he is lying when his lips are moving. He will do anything to protect his use of drugs.
You cannot work with him on this, he will work you until he gets his way, that is what it looks like from your post. Nothing is good enough for him.
If nothing has been documented to date, then start now
Keep the emotion out of it, (that *&^%!!!) just left my house and his eyes were quite red, he tried to avoid me and stumbled a little. Good thing his mom is driving. He smelled like the
floor of an ancient bar!