Okay, NikNox, I had this vision of the bio mom riding around the cobble-stoned streets of your village (you know, being in the UK) in a huge Humvee and the IV bag merrily swinging from the roll bars. Waving like a parade princess.
Sigh....I know, sick humor. "Look, I am driving!"
You and your husband are doing an excellent job in a terrible situation.
When she is ready, she will come to you for the real deal because she can TRUST you, I cannot begin to tell you how much this means for a teen in her position.
Having a trustworthy parent, what a dream come true.
Beth